Marriage is not worth it for women according to an article in Psychology Today. Noam Shpancer Ph.D. claims ‘the benefits go mostly to men.’ And yet, us women tend to blame ourselves and rack our brains what we’re doing wrong, how we can improve our communication, sex life and align our lives purpose. What’s going on here? Could an over-expressed Mother Archetype be to blame?
How do you perceive your role in your marriage? Do you tend to sacrifice and put our own desires and wishes behind those of your husbands and children?
Will you be working, cooking, organising, socialising all day long only to fall into bed without any time spent on the most important person in your life? Yourself?
These days we are much more outspoken about our needs and our expectations – not just at work but in our relationships too. And yet many of us still feel like in order to ‘have it all’ we have to ‘do it all’ and we end up feeling exhausted, disappointed and even angry at our ‘inability’ to cope.
Funnily enough ‘in-ability to cope’ assumes that we could have the ‘ability’ to balance it all in the first place. Unfortunately this is a false belief to start with. A lot of times it is simply impossible to meet all the expectations that we, along with society, place on ourselves.
How on earth are we supposed to make a healthy nutritious breakfast for our kids in the morning whilst being at work at the crack of dawn? How are we supposed to stay fit and slim without taking away from spending quality time with our partners and family? How are we supposed to be social and outgoing and drumming up funds for a great cause whilst keeping the home tidy and spotless? Turn into Superwoman? Well, many of us try. Adding more and more balls to juggle but it takes a massive toll on our health and happiness.
The key to a more fulfilling marriage is to be more fulfilled in yourself.
How do we do that? By embracing the five different types of power and connection through accessing our unique feminine strengths. By fanning that magic flame that’s yearning to be tended inside of us. Instead of over-expressing our Mother Archetype or turning into Superwoman we could balance them with the Lover, the Sorceress, the Queen and the Warrioress. Not only will it enrich your life in a way you did not think possible but it will blow your husbands and kids mind too.
Keep loving, living and learning.
Manuela Damant, Azkua